Disability and Devoteeism
They are linked. There will always be disability and there will always be devoteeism. The relationship between the two could be beautifully symbiotic. Right now, I think, most feel that it is parasidic and/or antagonistic. People who have disabilities often attack devs and call them sick freaks and perverts. Devs with no outlet and no ability to talk about what they are in a safe environemnt, take images and videos without permission to use for their fantasy life. Having been mostly denied a real life. To break this cycle I think we need to ask why are devotees thought of with such hatred or revulsion? Is the idea that someone could find paralyzed limbs erotic and beautiful disgusting to you? What about the idea that someone could find long, tan legs...
Read MoreDisability and Evolution
I had an amazing conversation with one of my favorite people in the world recently. My younger cousin is a brilliant thinker and insightful artist. Conversations with him have always uplifted me and filled me with ideas. We spoke a lot this time about disability. Obviously, it’s a subject of great interest to me and it has taken on new meaning to him as he was diagnosed with a progressive disorder of the nervous system a few years ago. I had told him a while back that one theory about disability is: you aren’t disabled until the moment you encounter a barrier. Even then, barriers are just opportunities to find a creative solution. Disability really brings out creativity. I’ve known people with some pretty severe mobility restrictions, but...
Read More“Imperfect” Heroes
Why do I use the phrase “imperfect hero” sometimes to describe the men in the stories that I write? Do I think that men who have disabilities are not perfect? Not at all! I think their bodies are absolutely perfect. I use the phrase because it is a common euphemism for disabled male characters in books. I need to tag and have that phrase connected with my website so that people who are searching for the kinds of stories I write can find them. It is not only devotees who enjoy these books. Some like to read what is known as “wounded hero romance” because they are tired of Fabio heroes who don’t feel true to real life. Others have a deep seated sense of compassion and like hurt/comfort stories where a woman nurses a man back to...
Read MoreAutism and Me
On my YouTube channel, someone suggested that I talk a bit about the difference between visible and invisible disabilities. I have never called myself disabled. I have an interest in people who have physical disabilities and I always have, but there is another kind of disability that is unrelated to that interest of mine. Up until last year all I knew was that I was a bit odd. Then as I hit a wall of depression and struggled back from it, I started talking to and being asked questions by people who knew about things that I didn’t: like Asperger’s. I’d heard the word, but didn’t think much of it. We as a society have a lot of ideas about what it means to be autistic and it usually involves something like a lack of mental capacities. I...
Read MoreThe Thing About Twitter…
…is you never know who is listening. The Internet has the problem of shielding you from the people who are accessing the information you put out, so you don’t feel the same need to be kind and respectful that you would feel in real life. It’s good to remember that if you say something about a group of people, they see it. An exchange between two young men I follow on Twitter, one of whom is a good Internet friend… C: A search that led someone to my blog, “adults sex for disability people in wheelchair nude picture” – not sure they found what they wanted. T: You have never been approached by someone with a gimp fetish? That’s always fun. C: Unfortunately not? T: I should tell you a few stories sometime. C: Indeed....
Read More“Rescue Me”, Guest Blog: Jamie Parker
Through the What Would Emma Pillsbury Wear? blog I discovered a great new voice in the blogging world, Mrs. Jamie Parker. Her posts are chipper and upbeat, without fail. She writes about clothes in ways that fill me with nostalgia and joy. She touches on the aspects of clothes that bring out emotion and self-expression. She also tells sweet, lovely stories, like the one that she is sharing with us here today. This is a story that is part of a collection that she’s putting together into a book. Get more of her cheerful attitude at http://ilookgoodtoday-jamie.blogspot.com/ “Rescue Me!” As I was signing in for a doctor’s appointment, suddenly half of the building went black. It was raining outside and, in typical Florida fashion, power outages were...
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At proofreaders; available for pre-order
What Is Meant To Be
Second draft
Homework & Homicide (working title)
Second Draft
Book Montage
RFW winner October 7, 2011
