So You’re Thinking About Dating a Dev

So You’re Thinking About Dating a Dev

My experience has been that for many people who have disabilities, finding out about devs is cool and exciting at first.  What a great thing, you might think, that someone will actually want my body as it is instead of just putting up with it.   After some thought, though, some concerns might arise.  I want to address those concerns.  Based on myself and many messages and conversations that I’ve had with other devs, I’m putting some common questions here. Please ask your own questions in the comments or by email!  I will update the post to reflect all the questions. Also, a word of explanation.  There is a lot of variety among devs.  As you might expect, they are people just like every one else.  A few of them are creepy or scary.  Most are not.  Most...

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Posted by on May 22, 2011 in Disability Rights, Sexuality | 39 comments

Celebrating

Celebrating

My book (W)hole was published in May of 2009.  Exactly two years later, over 100 copies have been sold! To be exact, 109 copies, including the Kindle version, have sold so far.  Not exactly numbers that will allow me to quit my day job, but I think it’s pretty amazing.  My hard work paid off.  I’ve told many of you, but not all, that it took me ten years to write (W)hole.  I had the idea when I was volunteering at the Information Center for Individuals with Disabilities in Massachusetts when I was 17 years old.  It was a very different story back then.  I worked it over and over and over and finally published it when I was 27. I continue to work hard on a sequel for it.  The outline is done and I’m getting through 1,000 words/day toward a first...

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Posted by on May 9, 2011 in Updates on Ruth's Fiction | 0 comments

Your Advice Needed

Your Advice Needed

The question: Is disability a dating game changer? The background: Many people like to say that they don’t like game playing in dating.  However, I have come to believe that a little bit of game playing in the beginning is necessary.  It’s very rare that you can get away with showing your whole hand right from the start.  It scares and overwhelms the other person, particularly because chances are that you are on different places on each others lists. What do I mean by lists? I mean that you’re out on the dating market, you’re talking to a few people, looking at possibilities, not too sure yet.  At some point someone you meet starts to stand out from the rest and that person becomes number one on your list.  That’s the person that you...

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Posted by on May 7, 2011 in Disability Rights, Sexuality | 8 comments