Devotee and Non-Disabled Partner

There are many devotees in relationships with partners who are not disabled (and farther down I’ll be talking about the different ways this happens). Does that make them no longer devotees? Not at all. This can be a tricky concept, because I know I had trouble with it when applied to a situation with some parallels to this one: bisexuality. I have a friend who is bisexual and she is now married to a man. It was difficult at first for me to understand that her picking a man didn’t mean that she had chosen to be straight and that her bi-ness was now gone or even effectively gone. She is bisexual and she always will be.  I only started to understand that when I looked at my own situation. I’ve dated both disabled and non-disabled men. A fairly even...